Looking after yourself isn’t always easy. We’re busy juggling a hundred and one things. Our days and weeks might fly by and there are never enough hours in the day. Lucky Things is a big champion of looking after your own wellbeing. Life can be full of ups and downs, big ones and small ones. There are so many things which impact our wellbeing, from change, guilt or everyday anxiety – the list goes on. So here’s a few things you can try out if you’re not feeling great.
Speak to someone you trust…When you’re ready (and even if you’re not quite ready), chat to someone about how you’re feeling. When you’re not feeling yourself or can’t shift a low mood, remember it’s OK to not be OK (as I talked about in one of my earlier blog posts last year). Many of us feel we will be judged if we open up and say we’re not feeling great. We have so much to be grateful for in life, but that doesn’t mean we don’t experience everyday lows and stresses. Talking to someone you trust can help you clear your mind a bit. It can give us a bit of focus especially when we need to look after ourselves too. Talking therapy can be a casual chat with a mate or a quick phone call with one of your relatives. Not always easy, but try not to feel like you have to deal with your struggles on your own.
Work out what gives you positive energy…Sometimes we forget to focus on the things that feed us positive energy. If you know a bit of exercise (even 10 minutes a day) is personally good for you, try and fit it into your schedule. If you know eating certain foods are better for you, make a list of healthy foods you enjoy.
Listen to some music…Music is something that can help to improve our mood, even if it’s just temporarily. I strongly believe music is good for our wellbeing. So make sure you have a playlist sorted with your favourite mood-boosting tunes. This is also where headphones come in handy. You can enjoy your music even if you’re in a busy home or on the busy commute to work.
Find the wellbeing tricks that work for you…When we don’t feet great, we can’t just wave a magic wand and suddenly feel fine. We’re all different. I like what Kari from Life Butter Radio says “It’s about learning how to preserve and enhance your energy reserves through prioritising sleep, learning how to eat well for you, and finding ways to effectively manage stress”. I believe that things can take time and new routines take a while to master but it’s always worth trying things out. When I met Tonya Lee (the wife of film director Spike Lee), I asked her for a top tip on how to feel confident? Tonya told me how it’s about “Looking after yourself – if you feel healthy and do exercise, you feel good about yourself and no-one cam move you off your mark“. So work out what works for you. It might need to be a combination of small things or small changes.
Start your day with a mind break…I recently spoke at the Recharge, Renew, Refresh event organised by Lisa from The Wentworth Collective. Lisa also reminded me how we need to take a mind break. Just a few minutes at the start of the day to meditate, just think about something positive or what you’d like to achieve that day. It’s so easy to jump out of bed and start catapulting through the to-do list and next thing we know it’s bed-time. If you fancy a bit of everyday mindfulness check out the 3-minute Transitional Pause exercise from Dr. Tamara Russell. It helps you and your mind get ready for the next task, space or activity.
Treasure your sleep…Sleep is priceless. Once we lose it, it’s gone. Yes we can replace a lack of sleep with caffeine and other treats but nothing beats getting rest. When we’re not feeling great, sleep can be one way of looking after yourself. Again, not one size fits all kinds of lifestyles. If you want to try and improve your sleep, take some small steps to create your own bedtime routine as a grown up. Small tricks include having a warm drink (non-caffeine!) or think about your small achievements of the day so you go to sleep on a positive note. Oh and no phone or screen time at least an hour before bedtime (again, not always easy when we’re living in an online world).
Give yourself a break…We can’t always take a physical break but you can give yourself a break when it comes to not feeling great. Even just acknowledging you’re not feeling yourself is an achievement in itself. So, don’t be hard on yourself because of how you feel. Remind yourself of what you do well, however small. None of us can be superheroes, so we need to look out for ourselves too.