Top tips for going to events on your own

Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, many of us can feel a bit nervous or unsure about going to events on our own. They may be events where ten other people are going or maybe hundreds will be there. What I call event anxiety is a very normal feeling. If you haven’t already seen it, don’t forget to check out my blog on top tips on networking. I’ve had to attend events on my own for lots of different reasons. Through my own experience of attending a variety of events in my media, corporate or freelance careers I’ve picked up a few tricks about going to events over the past 20 years. So here seven top tips about going to events on your own…

What do you need to know before the event? Research is queen! What would really you love to know about this event? What kind of things do you like to know about an event? What’s the venue like? What time will it finish? Who else is going? Is there an agenda? Is there feedback on previous events? So, work out what info and will make you more comfortable about going to an event. Don’t be afraid to ask the event organiser questions about the event and before you decide to buy a ticket.

Think about your event intentions…What is it that you want to get out of this event? It’s OK to have your own intentions. We rarely just go to events to hang about. Is it that you want to learn something, maybe be inspired, meet people, network, talk about what you do or just be social? If you keep reminding yourself why you’re going to an event and how you’ll benefit from it, this distracts you from any pre-event nerves and event anxiety on the day.

Connect online beforehand…These days, many events or conferences have email bulletins or Facebook groups to prepare people for different events. Join in online as it’s a way to get to know other attendees. Events may also have Twitter or Instagram pages. Check them out as they may help to boost your event confidence a bit.

Ask others who go to events on their own about their top tips…Do you know someone who often goes to events and seems to enjoy them? Ask them about what they might feel nervous about? What do they least enjoy and how do they get through it? What do they really enjoy about going to events on their own? How do they interact with people? I never underestimate how people feel when they come to the Lucky Things Meet Ups. Lots of people come to these events on their own. Even if people have been to one before, they may still have a bit of event anxiety.

Think of your conversation starter…This doesn’t have to be a cliche. Think of a question you can ask people when you first speak to them. Open questions are fab like “What interested you in this event?”. Closed ones are helpful too – “Have you been to an event like this before?”. Asking gentle questions shows an interest in others. Or perhaps it’s just a simple “hello, I’m…” and let the other person lead the conversation.

Enjoy your own space…Remember that not all events are about full-on networking, constant chatting or swapping business cards. Again, come back to your event intentions. If you’d prefer to keep a low profile that’s fine too. Just remember that people may come up and speak to you so be ready for that interaction. If there’s a talk in a room, sit in a space where you feel most comfortable.

Everyone suffers from event anxiety…Yes, even the most outwardly confident-looking people suffer from some level of what I call event anxiety. Will anyone speak to me? Will I see anyone I know? Will it be easy to mingle? Will there be a break? You can guarantee there will be many others at the event with similar questions or worries. Oh and what to wear? Talking of what to wear, always make sure you wear something you’re comfortable in or maybe something that makes you feel a bit more confident. My last tip is to think about what will make you feel better about walking through the door or into the room at an event? You might be able to arrange to meet someone else who’s going so you can literally meet at the entrance and stroll in together. These little things all make a difference.

What are your top tips for going to events? Are you going to any events over the coming months? What do you enjoy about going to events, meet ups, workshops or conferences? Let me know what you think too and leave a comment below. 

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8 thoughts on “Top tips for going to events on your own

    • Sunita says:

      Thanks Hayley. That’s great you liked the top tips. That’s why it’s fab when we have hand massages at the Lucky Things Meet Ups – people can just enjoy their own time and space if they want. Also there isn’t the pressure to start networking etc. #fortheloveofBLOG

  1. The Pramshed says:

    Oh I loved reading this, and it’s so true about event anxiety, but when you realise that everyone is in the same boat as you it’s so much easier. Completely agree about networking before hand that makes it so much easier, and also finding out who’s going too. I really love getting your emails with the full list of people attending the Lucky Things Meet Up. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    • Sunita says:

      Thanks so much Claire. Going to events can feel hard however many you go to. I love networking beforehand. That’s fab you like the emails I send out to Lucky a Things attendees – it’s great to know they’re helpful. #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Sunita says:

      Thanks so much Claire. Great to hear what works for you too. All helpful tips. Fab to know how much you love the Lucky Things Meet Ups. The July one is going to be so lovely!!! #fortheloveofBLOG

  2. Joanne - The Ealing Mummy says:

    Hi! you have written some great tips here. Last year I went to my first blogging PR event and I spent the whole time running to the toilet as I was getting all hot and bothered! Then I went to Blogfest and found it all a bit too much. Since then I have been to a lot of things and I am getting use to it. Thanks for this so helpful!

    • Sunita says:

      That’s great to hear you’re finding the events that work for you. You’re right it takes practice. You should check out the Lucky Things Meet Ups. I purposely keep them to max 50 people so it doesn’t feel too big. Thanks for stopping by Joanne.

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