Our IVF journey (part 3) – Finally starting IVF treatment

Hey there, here’s part 3 of our IVF journey. Hopefully you’ve had a chance to look at part 1 (I’d like to be a mummy) and part 2 (operation time). No worries if you haven’t, as part 3 is a story of its own.

Choosing our IVF clinic…

Mr.H is a pro when it comes to research. Whether it’s the latest baby gadget or the best places to travel with your kids. So I didn’t have to get stuck into too much research when it came to choosing clinics. I also didn’t have the emotional energy for it.We decided to work with the London clinic CRGH for our IVF journey. The Centre for Reproductive Health  is linked to UCL Hospital where I had my bigger than expected operation.

The clinic CRGH was located up the road from Kings Cross so it was in the middle of where I worked (the City) and where Mr.H worked (Covent Garden). We did look at their stats but to be honest they didn’t mean anything would be guaranteed results for us. One thing we liked is that they seemed to be quite innovative and tried all kinds of IVF treatment with their clients. I didn’t even realise there was more than one IVF route at the time.

We had to re-do the fertility tests at CRGH and next thing we knew something was up. My hormone levels weren’t right for following the normal IVF route where you take lots of medication to boost your egg supplies and so there would be a higher chance of it working. That route would have been harmful for my body. Luckily, CRGH were known as an innovative clinic and my consultant Lisa Webber suggested we try the “natural IVF route”. This meant that my hormone levels would be monitored through a series of daily scans and they could only retrieve one egg. They were honest about there being a 10% chance of the natural IVF route working for us. My heart sank deeper and deeper as the more we moved forward the less possible things seemed. Mr.H and I decided we still wanted to give the natural IVF route a chance. We knew it could take several tries before becoming pregnant.

The CRGH fertility tests then flagged another issue; one of the scans discovered an ovarian cyst that was out of control. In May 2012, I had an operation as soon as possible to sort out the cyst. By this point, my levels of hope had dwindled as I felt that things were going to keep getting in our way. It was hard for me to stay positive about IVF working out for us. Instead, I felt that we should give it a go so in the future we wouldn’t have regrets about not trying.

Finally starting our secret IVF journey…

We treated the first IVF process as a “practice”. The chances of it working were so slim but at least we would become familiar about exactly what was involved. I described it as a practice so I could manage my own expectations about the chances of it working. Everyone will remember 2012 as the year of the London Olympics. Our beautiful city was the centre stage for one of the best moments in history. We felt we were getting ready to run our own race and it would involve loads of heats to get to the finish line.

Only our very close family members and closest friends knew about my first operation and even fewer knew that we were embarking on the IVF journey. I felt ashamed about the hard fact that I couldn’t have babies naturally. As you can imagine, all of a sudden, I noticed so many pregnant women and wondered why I couldn’t be like them? At the time, I had no idea that IVF was so common. As I remained so private about it, I didn’t get to hear other peoples’ stories first hand.

I then had to decide what, if anything, do I say to work? I felt that I needed to explain why I would have to attend so many scan appointments and follow-up appointments. I’m pretty career-minded and the last thing I wanted them to think was that I was interviewing elsewhere! Many women are concerned about how wanting to start a family may impact their career opportunities. It was a weird feeling declaring that I was going to try to have a baby. Luckily, my bosses were so supportive and so it was a huge weight off my shoulders that I didn’t have to hide what was going on.

The egg hunt…

So, I cracked on with the regular scans and blood tests so they could monitor my most ‘fruitful’ time to try and get hold of that little egg. This is a girl who used to faint at the sight of needles. How I got through all of those blood tests, I’ll never know. A week passed and they explained they would have to make an informed choice and try to find the little egg. They scheduled me for the egg collection procedure where I’d be sedated. Sounds like an Easter hunt eh, but it was like that knowing the egg could be hidden in a place that couldn’t be found.

We headed to CRGH in Kings Cross on a Saturday morning. Me and Mr H will always feel attached to Kings Cross as it reminds us of our clinic visits. I remember liking another ladies’ dress and asking her where she got it from as we both walked down to the theatre ward. Maybe I was nervous and just wanted to make some chit chat. Trust me to be noticing pretty bright dresses on the day of the egg collection!I didn’t mind being sedated. Maybe because I was getting used to having operations!

I woke up from the sedation all fuzzy. I could hear other women in the cubicles next to me finding out their procedure didn’t work on that occasion. I think I woke up crying as I asked James what had happened and did they get hold of the little egg? They did. It felt like we had got through to our first ‘heat’. Egg collection sorted. Now for the clinic to work their magic and make an embryo.

The power of science…

We soon received a call a few days later and the embryologist said there was good news. Our little bits and bobs had made friends and they were growing into an embryo. We couldn’t believe it. We made it into the second ‘heat’ of our Olympic journey. The day soon arrived for the embryo transfer. It was an interesting procedure as you’re awake. I remember the consultant playing some happy Salsa music in the theatre room. If I’d know music could be played I would have requested to play one of my playlists ha ha. The salsa was fine and made me smile. After the procedure, they showed us the location of the embryo. It was like a little diamond and it was actually in MY body. Obviously I was extra cautious for the next few days.

If you’d like to read more about the next stage of our IVF journey, part 4 is also up on the blog. 

 

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20 thoughts on “Our IVF journey (part 3) – Finally starting IVF treatment

  1. Savannah (@HowHesRaised) says:

    Oh wow, what a journey! I cannot imagine how difficult all of that must’ve been-and the roller coaster of emotions!! It makes me kind of sad to know that you felt ashamed, because I have friends who’ve struggled with infertility and I wonder if they, too, felt the same way. Thank you so much for sharing your story now though, there truly are soooo many women who need this kind of hope. <3 #KCACOLS

    • Sunita says:

      Hey Savannah. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. Yep it’s def a physical and emotional roller coaster. And pretty tough going for your partner too. It was awful feeling so bad about it. That stopped me from getting lots of lovely support from my friends who didn’t know the whole story. But I never want anyone to be sorry about what we went through as our story ended very well. We still can’t believe we have two children and we are very very grateful. #KCACOLS

  2. Mum in Brum says:

    Wow what a fascinating story – I know quite a few people who have had IVF but I’ve never really understood the procedure or how it really works so found this a really interesting read. So glad that you were successful, good for you for sharing your story – I’m sure it will really help and inspire other couples considering IVF xx #KCACOLS

    • Sunita says:

      Hey Natalie. Hope you’re well. Thanks so much for reading the post and your comment. I’m hoping that sharing my story will help others to get an idea of what IVF can look like although everyone’s experience is totally different. I hope our story gives others a bit of hope or at least the courage to try IVF. The different parts of my journey have certainly made me who I am today. #KCACOLS

  3. Sharon Parry says:

    Gosh you have been on such a journey – I will have to check out your other blog posts now to catch up on the whole story. Thank you for sharing your story – it will give hope to so many people. #KCACOLS

    • Sunita says:

      Thanks so much Sharon. Everyone’s comments mean a lot as its such a personal story for us. I hope you enjoy reading the other parts of the journey. They have all made me who I am as a mummy today. I hope they help others understand more about what can happen and what support is helpful #KCACOLS

  4. tootingmama says:

    Wow! Brings back so many memories.

    It was almost 10 years ago we tried IVF, and we only did one. The effects were way to traumatic to think about continuing. But after it didn’t work we gathered ourselves up and chose the adoption route and haven’t looked back.

    I so understand the shame of not being able to have your own children, and seeing pregnant women everywhere you look! When I was trying there were six pregnant women in my office (might have shed a few tears in the loo!)

    But for you, I’m sending you oodles of good luck, I really hope it works out! Keeping everything crossed for you my lovely! #KCACOLS

    • Sunita says:

      Thanks so much for your amazing comment Tooting Mama and for sharing your story. I have no idea if we could have done IVF again if it hadn’t been successful for us. I have so much admiration for those who do many cycles. As you say that’s also not for everyone and we also have to follow what it right for us. It’s so hard. How beautiful you adopted. Thanks for your empathy it means a lot. Hope you get to look around the rest of Lucky Things (then you’ll find out about the end result) xxx Keep in touch #KCACOLS

  5. Someone's Mum says:

    What a fascinating and helpful story to share. I have had friends go through IVF but still have little idea of how complicated the process is. I would say those who have IVF totally shouldn’t feel shame at all about not having a baby ‘naturally’. What does the natural bit really mean, after all? You carry the baby, build him or her from within,you give birth, you bring them up and teach them every day. That last part is the most important and difficult and the most ‘natural’ thing in the world. Thanks so much for sharing with #KCACOLS. We hope you come back next week.

  6. Suburban Mum says:

    Wow what a story you have to share I have just read them all. I have friends who have had IVF some were successful and some weren’t. 10% chance and you were within that percentage which is just amazing! #KCACOLS

    • Sunita says:

      Ah thanks Surburban Mum, your comment means a lot. How lovely you were able to read about our journey on Lucky Things blog. There’s still part 5 to come… Lovely linking up via #KCACOLS See you around Lucky Things soon x Sunita P.S. Will you be at BlogFest in November?

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