The timing to launch the IVF Journeys series on Lucky Things has never felt so right. This month we celebrated our first baby’s 4th birthday. Every day we’re celebrating our IVF little lady. Every day I see the scars on my tummy from my IVF injections. Everyone’s fertility or IVF journey is completely different. So, I’m honoured that I’m able to feature others’ experiences in the hope of raising awareness of what women and men go through or just the support available.
I wished I read more about others’ IVF success stories when we first found out I couldn’t have children naturally. If I did, they many have given me more hope. I think they also would have made me feel less embarrassed about doing IVF as it’s way more common that you realise.
So I’m very happy to introduce Suzy’s story. She writes the blog Our Bucket List Lives, lives in Lincolnshire with her husband and their little miracle boy. Suzy is currently a house wife. She recently started a blog based around their family bucket list and she’s hoping it will evolve into something where she can call herself ‘self employed’. Over to Suzy…
Tell us about what happened with your IVF journey? We have one Son. It took 4 attempts over 2 years, but our infertility journey lasted from 2008 until 2012.
When did you first find out you needed to do some kind of fertility treatment? I came off the pill in 2008. I fully expected to get pregnant but sadly after about 2 years of trying to conceive we decided that we needed to ask for some help. It was then that my fibroids were diagnosed as to severe for natural conception.
What have you learnt about yourself having gone through your fertility treatment? That I don’t give up easily.
What were one of the hardest things for you, knowing you had to go through fertility treatment? Fear of the unknown I guess, especially as we lived in France at the time and I knew that all my treatment would be even stranger to me because I hardly spoke the language back then.
When you found out, do you remember how you feel? Sad but I didn’t want to be defeated. I tried to be upbeat and positive as I knew I couldn’t live my life happily without a child.
How did your partner feel? He worried about what I’d have to go through and if it was really worth it. But he was fully supportive.
What kind of fertility treatment did you go through? IVF
Did you know of anyone else who went through fertility treatment? Yes, because I joined a really good website called FertilityFriends.co.uk and I made many ‘virtual’ friends there who I now still see today and I’m still in contact with via Facebook.
Were you scared about anything going through fertility treatment? I was scared it wouldn’t work. I was also a little scared about having to inject myself with a needle. Mostly I was scared it wouldn’t work.
What support did you seek when going through fertility treatment? My friends at Fertility friends were amazing support.
Were you OK being open with friends and family that you were going to try fertility treatment? Yes totally. So many try and hide it from their family but we were extremely open and they knew everything that we went through. Although I must admit that we shared a lot less each time we went through it.
Did you ever feel embarrassed or self-conscious about going through fertility treatment? Not at all. I think it’s such an amazing treatment as it can bring a life to a couple that could end up never being able to conceive naturally.
What tips would you share for others going through fertility treatment? Share your feelings and thoughts with others where and when you can. Try not to worry too much about the what ifs. Worrying can’t change anything. Do a ton of research too, especially about vitamins and good foods to eat while going through fertility treatment. I got a bit obsessed about what to and what not to eat but I am convinced that the food we ate helped.
What should people consider when they’re deciding which fertility clinic to go with? I’d look at statistics and peoples real opinions of the clinics online. Also word of mouth is always a good starting point. Obviously the most expensive clinics tend to be the ones with the best results. They can charge so much because they help so many. Sadly non funded IVF can cost a huge amount of money.
Looking back, what is one of the most memorable moments of your fertility treatment? The day we went in for our egg transfer for IVF cycle number 4. We were getting used to being told that the embryo(s) that they were going to put back in wasn’t very good quality. That day we went in and we were told they only had 1 embryo but it was the best of the best. It really couldn’t have been any better. I can not begin to explain how relieved and happy we were.
In three words, describe your fertility journey. Long, daunting and worrying.
Anything else you’d like to share about your fertility journey? We were literally about to give up on our fourth cycle. I really couldn’t go through another cycle again. In France you get four cycles for free and only cycles that go to egg transfer count. If attempt #4 hadn’t have worked we could have gone again but I was ready to give up. It’s honestly the most draining thing I’ve ever done. It zaps you. Your life is consumed by appointments, injecting, appointments and then the two week wait. It’s just torture. I obviously don’t regret doing it because we now have the most amazing little boy as a result of it. But I really wish that we had tried for a baby much earlier in life.
Thanks again to Suzy for sharing their story. Let us know what you thought of her IVF journey and leave a comment below. More IVF journeys will be featured on Lucky Things over the coming months.